Weep, Laugh, Mourn, Dance | Personal Post

Yesterday was one of my hardest days as a wedding photographer. Now don’t get me wrong.  It had nothing to do with the wedding or the couple.  In fact, my couple was super sweet and flexible when logistical things caused the timeline to get off.  It didn’t rain when there was the threat of it and by any standard, it was a beautiful wedding in the Classic City.  

As a wedding photographer, I get to celebrate with couples quite often.  In Romans 12:15, the Bible tells us to “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.”  Naturally, I am a pretty empathetic person, which means that I get to rejoice a lot with my couples.  I’m thankful that most days are happy ones and that I get to celebrate with them.  Yesterday, I did celebrate with this couple, but before I did, I wept with others.  

A week ago today, a friend of mine lost both his wife of six months and his mother in a roadside car accident where a drunk driver was involved.  Yesterday was the funeral for Elise Martin.  I had the pleasure of knowing Elise, if only over the past several months.  I was really excited when she and Adam signed up to be on our flag football team because that meant I was going to get to know her better and see her more.  Now, her team t-shirt is sitting in the trunk of my car waiting for me to give it to her.  Our church community is mourning deeply for her loss and the loss of Adam’s mother.  We are shocked, devastated and confused.  We ache together as the body of Christ and will be aching for a long time to come. 

In Ecclesiastes 3:4 it talks about how there is a time and a season for everything, “a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn; and a time to dance;”  For me, all of those things took place yesterday - weep, laugh, mourn, dance.  It’s hard and confusing to know that in life there is both/and - possibly even in the same day.  

It's been rough week and yesterday was especially hard, but the Lord brought me to today.  I know that in the days ahead I will continue to weep and rejoice together with those who are weeping and rejoicing, but also weeping and rejoicing in tandem trusting that the Lord is orchestrating all things for his glory and our good.